Your Brave Does Not Have to Look Like Someone Else’s Brave

When I was around 7 years old, having a meal with my mother in a McDonalds restaurant, she told me to ask the cashier for a napkin. Asking a stranger for a napkin was traumatic for me as a painfully timid and uncommonly shy little girl. I was so paralyzed by fear that I did not do it. I just cried.

I have countless stories like this one. I am braver today than that little girl, but courage did not come with age. Though some came with maturity, age and size has really nothing to do with courage.

Persevering in the face of fear does.

Your brave won't look like someone else's brave, and it doesn't have to. #deliberate31days

Your brave looks different from someone else’s brave. You may think your bold, brave step is small compared to someone else’s big, bold step and decide to not take yours.

Five years ago, getting a Facebook account was a big, brave step for me. The next brave step was using a photo of myself as my profile picture. It may seem small to someone else, but it was huge to me. And, it was evidence of being a little more free.

Today, after many of my own brave steps, my big brave step is working on making YouTube videos. God has been calling me out of hiding for a long while, and the journey forward is one step at a time.

If you do not take a step, you won’t get to the next one.

Bravery is making the decision to take small, yet big to you, courageous steps despite feeling afraid, unqualified, and incapable. The truth sets you free to take those steps, and the more you take them, the more free you become.

Bravery is being restored to women.

I’ve seen it happening. Far too long we’ve been in shackles to fear, and it’s changing because it’s time to run free.

Jesus is setting us free. The time is now. I don’t know why it’s more now, than before. Why did God wait 400 years to free the Israelites from slavery? I don’t know the answer, except that God has an appointed time.

Well, the devil knows what time it is. He’s losing his grip on so many daughters of God, and he is tightening his grip on others.

He’s in a losing battle. There is no doubt. It’s plain in the word. “Despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us.” Romans 8:37

The ties are coming undone, and it’s truth that’s setting you free. So here’s a little more truth to counter those lies, and set you a little more free. Your big-brave step may not seem big to someone else, but it is big to you. Your brave won’t look like someone else’s brave.

It is not a brave step until you take it.

The difference between you and the person you are comparing yourself to — that seems so much further or bigger than you, and taking big, bold, brave leaps you cannot imagine yourself taking — is they started.

If you follow the timeline of their life back to where they started, I guarantee they began with much smaller steps than the ones they are taking now. You only see where the those steps took them, and not what it took for them to take them.

Some of the larger-than-life kind of people can make you feel dwarfed, small and insignificant, so stop looking up at people. The ground is level at the foot of the cross. People are not on pedestals unless you put them there. Look up and see God. Look up verses and see truth. Look how God sees you, and how you look in His Word.

“Not that we are adequate in ourselves to consider anything as coming from ourselves, but our adequacy is from God.” 2 Corinthians 3:5

Look to God, “Who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.” Ephesians 3:20

But thinking your brave needs to look like their brave will hinder you from starting. “I could never be as brave as so-and-so.” You are absolutely right. You shouldn’t try to be like so-and-so, but you can be the bravest you.

Sometimes that takes the most kind of brave–being you bravely.

Your brave might be staying when everyone else is going, and you do. Or it might be leaving when when you really want to stay.

Your brave might be sticking with it when everything in you is screaming, “Just. Quit!” and you don’t.

Your brave might be remaining faithful even when no one can see how truly faithful you are. Your brave might be standing in front of 1 when your friend is standing before 10 thousand, and you do it genuinely and passionately ministering your heart out.

Your brave might be homeschooling your children, and you do it the best you can.
Your brave might be putting your babies on the school bus every morning, and you do it with a longing heart.

Your brave might be staying quiet, when you have so much you want to say.
Your brave might be speaking up when your shaking in your boots to say it.

Your brave might be to forgive, and put yourself out there knowing you might get hurt, and you do it over and over again.

Your brave might be getting out of bed every morning and simply putting one foot in front of the other, but you are doing it!

Fear won’t ever go away.

Quit being ashamed of that step you know you are supposed to take because it seems small in light of everyone else’s footsteps, and just take it.

I still need to be brave when I answer the phone. I still need to be brave when I write here, or post on social networks. I still need to be brave when I meet someone for the first time.

Fear won’t ever go away. Just keep pressing past it. Your brave will not look like someone else’s brave, but don’t let it stop you any more.

Don’t let someone else’s bravery dwarf yours. It’s not the size of something you do that makes you brave. If you are afraid to do something and you do it anyway — that makes you brave.


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Michele-Lyn Ault

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